You might have heard about homeschooling from a classmate, friend or the internet. The idea probably sounds great to you – stay home all day, learn what you want, when you want… and not having to deal with teachers or classroom drama is definitely a win. But before you quit school and crack the textbooks in your bedroom instead, you need to talk to your parents. This is probably the most intimidating part of the whole experience, as you know that saying one thing wrong can lead to an instant, permanent “no” and being trapped in school longer.

Before you even consider sitting down to talk with them, you have homework to do. You need to research the legality of homeschooling in your area, exactly what is required to stay on the right side of the law while homeschooling, and curricula. If this doesn’t sound any fun, you may want to reconsider homeschooling. You have to be able to motivate yourself to achieve a goal you really want – like finishing high school. If you’re willing to do the work, though, you may be able to follow through with homeschooling, and you’ll impress this fact on your parents.

Once you’ve found out what you’re going to need to do, submit, and think about when homeschooling, think about whether you homeschooling yourself is reasonable from their point of view. If you’ve been frequently absent from school and haven’t demonstrated responsibility, they likely will be skeptical of your ability to homeschool yourself over the long term. On the other hand, if you are easily self-motivated and don’t have trouble following through on plans or being accountable, your parents will be more likely to say yes.

Write up a plan for how you’re going to successfully homeschool yourself. This may be more important than any school report you’ve done, so you want to be professional, thorough and serious. If you only put a half-effort into it, your parents will assume you’ll put the same amount of effort into your education. If you want to show them you’re serious, make a written outline of your proposal for self-education and cover all the issues you can think of, from legalities to financing it, how you will maintain a healthy social life to how it will impact the household chores. Answer as many of their objections and questions as you can in an organized, logical way.

Finally, you’re ready to have a serious talk with your parents. Bring your report and wait for a calm time when they have no other stresses to think about. Ask them if you can have a serious talk with them about your education. If they want to postpone it until a later time when they aren’t as busy, agree and go with it. Start by outlining the problems with your current education, then introduce the solution, show them your report, and answer any questions they might have. Above all, stay calmed and use reason whenever possible. Try to see their perspective and avoid getting angry.

With some preparation beforehand, your conversation with your parents to discuss the possibility of you homeschooling yourself can go smoothly.